When you’re arguing with someone:
Are you trying to say that they are wrong?
Are you just trying to say that you are right?
If you’re trying to say they are wrong, then you must provide evidence. You have to prove they are wrong. You need to know why they are wrong, and be able to convey those reasons to them, or others.
You’re just trying to say that you are right. You don’t care about reasons and logic. It doesn’t matter what the other person says, what happened, who did it, or why. You just want to be right, and that means something about the other person’s side has to be wrong. And that’s the thing you latch on to. Because if you can get the person to admit they are wrong about that one thing, then technically you are right. And you win.
But is that how you want to win?
P.S. – short one today. Point made, I think.
I had a dentist appointment today. Pretty routine. A usual cleaning. Nothing big. No deal. Much norm.
Except I don’t like going to the dentist. I don’t like getting my teeth scraped. I’ve had a lot of fillings over the years. I have anxieties and fears of teeth falling out, breaking off, shattering into a million pieces…
Last night I had a dream. It was quite powerful. Just to give you a preview so you can follow along better, the theme of my dream was basically:
We started this to help people. To give them a place to go. A place where they can be understood.
Well… I didn’t actually lose $30 dollars. I know exactly where it went. Into the pockets of a Chinese scam artist!
But first, a prologue.
Years ago – I mean years ago – I became intrigued by all the internet ads promising free iPods or laptops. In my mind there were two thoughts on the matter:
I asked myself a question tonight. As I sat on the front porch swing, swaying in the cool spring breeze, I asked myself a very important question.
If you could do anything, what would you do?
Instead of looking at your job as a day full of tasks you barely get to finish, if you get to finish them at all, look at your job as a day full of people you get to influence.
I feel like every day goes by and there’s so much to get done at work, but things never get completed.
And that’s ok.
Don’t fret too much.
It’s going to be ok.
Besides, does it really matter that much?
P.S. – you are most likely replaceable. So, be thankful you haven’t been replaced yet.
Having high expectations can be very dangerous, not only for your mental health but for your physical health as well.